Society tends to pump out nice guys. These guys think you get girls by being friends first, and then the girl will come to her senses and have sex with you. And it’s not entirely their fault; our media is full of the nice guy trope. Luckily, by now, we all know being a nice guy is not a good thing. Heck, there’s even a best seller on how to stop being a nice guy. One of the places these nice guys go to get answers as to why they’re failing is The Manosphere.
The Manosphere is an odd collection of blogs and influencers concerned with issues regarding men. Unsurprisingly, the main issue is women. The community contains Pick-Up Artists(PUA), Involuntary Celibates (incels), Voluntary Celibates(volcels), Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW, pronounced “mig-tau”), men’s right’s activist, and various other gurus. The Manosphere is quite the mix and filled with infighting. It’s also filled with acronyms and jargon, which occasionally make it into the mainstream.
I came to know about The Manosphere through the Reddit PUA form known as Seddit. I am not a pick-up artist. But I did read their content when I was single. They know how to show a girl a good time, and they’re willing to teach you. To understand how the PUA community started, I recommend the book “The Game” by Neil Strauss. It’s a classic.
The history of The Manosphere is unclear, but as far as I can tell, it started with PUA forums and blogs and grew from there. The progression makes sense. Confused men don’t understand why they can’t get women. So they go searching for a solution and find out about PUA. They practice and get good at PUA techniques, and now they can get women. Suddenly the world they thought they knew looks completely different. Everything society had taught them about women was a lie. But seedy obscure blogs had the answers.
They’ve been “Red Pilled,” first on how to understand women. But that spills over into how they view society. These men know society has been lying to them about women. This understanding then gets built out into The Manosphere. That’s the central thesis of The Manosphere that holds all these disparate groups together. Society is female-centric and has misled men on the nature of women and on how to be a man.
One of the old school members of The Manosphere is Rollo Tomassi. He’s been talked about on The Masculinist before; Aaron reviewed his most recent book. Rollo runs a blog and YouTube channel called The Rational Male. The Manosphere is an internet community, has a whole host of participants. Most of them are crude and stupid. This is where Rollo is different. He’s crude and academic. Well, as academic as a member of The Manosphere can be.
Rollo uses evolutionary psychology and markets to justify his claims about gender dynamics. One of the big concepts he harps on is hypergamy. His motto is “Hypergamy doesn’t care.” If it’s not his motto, it should be because he says it enough. Perhaps Rollo’s best contribution is his explanation of the Sexual Market Place(SMP) and how women subconsciously react to it as they age. In that explanation, he coins the phrases “The Wall,” “The Epiphany Phase,” and many more.
If there’s one Manosphere thinker to indulge in, it’s probably Rollo. As far as I can tell, he’s the most academic of the bunch, and he’s friendly to Christians. That is not to say he is Christian-friendly. His writings, and pretty much all The Manosphere, are rated R or higher.
The vulgar nature of The Manosphere leads me to something I want to make clear about The Manosphere. It’s not for the faint of heart. It’s an online community made up of primarily dejected men. So there’s a lot of anger and women-hating. Men who are naturally good at getting women don’t usually end up there. The Manosphere is an exciting community to indulge, and they have helpful lessons to learn. Read a few blogs. Understand their concepts. And then move on.
The Manosphere is not a place to dwell. They have great insights into gender dynamics and the faults of our society, but it is ultimately filled with a lot of miserable men who will drag you down with them.